When people are coupled, they influence one another in many ways, and sometimes, without even realizing it. For example, if you are in a coupled relationship and you suffer from chronic emotional or physical pain, your partner is just as impacted as you are. Sometimes, the impact can simply be stressful watching a loved one struggle with the burden of a chronic, temporary or long-term illness. Most of the time, however, a loving partner does not really know what to do when this happens. In fact, anxiety and depression can develop for both of you and sometimes partners begin to grieve the loss of their partner they no longer have without even knowing it. This may appear as lack of interest in the relationship when, in fact, it is simple grieving, not a lack of love. Another way this can appear is in the ways of coping, such as, excessive alcohol use, gambling, and/or pornographic release, estranging the relationship to the point of breaking. As the circular problem continues to grow, communication systems break down and anger sets in.
Anger can complicate the matter and reduce healing for chronic emotional or physical pain, making the problem worse. In these situations it is hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel and life can feel difficult and complicated. Please know there is a light at the end of the tunnel! Life can be experienced with joy and contentment once these issues are explored and understood. Then, normal communication patterns can be restored and a sense of balance will return to your life.
Many couples and partnerships have experienced high levels of confusion when navigating these stressful times, but please know there is hope and your lives can be much happier and healthier. Take the first step to understanding what is happening to and around you. Stop wondering what is wrong and learn how to live fully as individuals and as a couple. Contacting a couples counseling professional can be helpful and, many times, is necessary to make the relationship healthier. The Space Between specializes in couples and partnership psychotherapy counseling and we are always available for residents in Maryland with an office near downtown Frederick. Call us anytime at 443-398-1700.