Are you unsure of what you are feeling? Does it seem like there are so many emotions to deal with all at the same time? Or, none at all? Does it seem as though you have been in a terrible fight, feeling emotionally bruised and humiliated, but unsure who is responsible or how it happened? Or, is it the opposite and you know exactly how you are feeling and who is to blame, but stuck because it is hard to know what to do? You are not alone.
What we need is to be able to make meaning of the realities of what is happening in our internal and external worlds to get relief. The problem, in many cases, is that the two do not match. When the two do not match, fatigue, concentration issues, and even panic can occur with a constant state of confusion.
With the emotions of the election, the stress of the up -coming holidays, and work-and-family issues, there is a lot on people’s plates to cope with. Right now, people are very vulnerable to triggers for depression, increased anxiety, relapsing in substance abuse, decompensating mental health, and increasing chronic pain. On the outside we can be busy and looking like coping is good, but on the inside there can be humiliation and unexpressed -and -trapped feelings with unfinished business. For example, are the holiday’s going to be happy, joyous, and peaceful, with what is currently be experienced within? Are you pretending? If you are experiencing turmoil, or discomfort, perhaps talking to a professional can be helpful. Going even once or twice can help sort things out.
To help get the insides and the outsides of ourselves to be congruent, we need to identify the feelings that are free-floating around that cannot be identified that are creating discomfort making meaning out of them. If you can identify the feeling you can identify the behavior that may be troublesome. Or, if you have a good grasp of your feelings, already, are you having trouble figuring out what to do with them?
Sometimes, people get stuck. A tip, if you feel like you have been in an emotional fight on the inside, you have been and probably still are. To get out of there, feelings, realities, triggers, and responsibilities, need to be turned into constructive plans to move forward. Likewise, try to be a good listener to yourself and others for tips, clues, and constructive ways to heal from your internal fight.
These are tough times and fear and anger are acceptable emotions. Ignoring them will not make things better. However, trading fear and anger in for peace of mind is priceless, one person at a time. Start now if you need clarity and relief. If you need help, The Space Between Therapy, is a great place to come.
The Warmest Regards for Now and Always,